When asked what they would do if money were no object, have they ever asked you? It’s a valid query, but it’s usually ignored since, well, money matters.
People who don’t believe in you will call you naive or foolish, but you know in your heart that you can actually make your dreams a reality.
As far as I can tell, the vast majority of people out there are simply surviving. They have to earn money to keep the lights on and food on the table.
People get comfortable not only in their professional lives but also in their personal ones. You might even know some people who have compromised their principles and morals in order to find a middle ground.
As a result, it is not naive or foolish to immediately begin living the life you have always imagined for yourself; rather, it is absolutely necessary.
“It’s never too late to try again or to dream a little bigger.”
- 1 Is There Such a Thing as a “Dream Life,” and What Does It Entail?
- 2 Is There Anything in the Way of Your Ideal Life?
- 3 Methods for Realizing Your Ideal Lifestyle (Your Step-by-Step Guide)
- 4 #1 Be Aware of Your Goals
- 5 #2 Establish a strategy.
- 6 #3 Prioritize Opportunities Over Constraints
- 7 #4 Pay Closer Attention
- 8 #5 Be Consistent in Your Approach
- 9 #6 Track Your Progress
- 10 #7 Ignore Comparisons
- 11 #8 Implement Necessary Procedures and Structures
- 12 #9 Adapt to the Game; Don’t Be Adapted By It
- 13 #10 Taking Responsibility Is Necessary
- 14 #11 Create a Change Catalyst
- 15 #12 Accept the Possibility of Disappointment
- 16 #13 Put Yourself in the Company of Upbeat, Optimistic People.
- 17 #14 No Texting While Driving
- 18 #15 Character Is Crucial, So Keep That in Mind.
- 19 #16 Remove Excess Materials
- 20 #17 Focus on What You Can Control
- 21 #18 Gather Your Strength
- 22 Conclusion
Is There Such a Thing as a “Dream Life,” and What Does It Entail?
Creating the life you’ve always imagined is easy in theory but difficult in practise. Your ideal existence will be distinctive from that of another person in many ways. This doesn’t imply that one particular ideal lifestyle is the sole desirable one.
Working in a job one enjoys or reaching a state of “flow” while at work is a key component for some people in realising their ideal existence. For some, it’s financial stability; for others, it’s the support of a close-knit family and group of friends.
If you’re living the life you’ve always imagined, then you’re living the dream. The life you have now is not less satisfying simply because you have bigger dreams.
Is There Anything in the Way of Your Ideal Life?
There could be a number of things holding you back from making your dream life a reality. Challenges of this nature include:
- Why aren’t you doing anything? You’ve got a bunch of great ideas, but you’ve never bothered to develop them further. Even though you keep promising yourself that “someday” is when you’ll finally get around to it, it never comes.
- You’re not being responsible for yourself – You never give yourself a hard time for writing off ideas and moving on without giving them another chance. Simply put, you have no basis for self-blame. Don’t worry about missing out by staying away.
- You worry too much about what other people will think of your ideas because everyone has an opinion and everyone has a voice. People who tell you “you can’t do something” are responsible for killing many good ideas.
- The motivation behind your actions is weak – A “why” is a very private justification for taking action. It can propel us to great heights, but if it isn’t strong enough, many of us lose steam and give up.
- You have a natural aversion to failing, which is understandable given that we all experience it at some point. Being aware of possible difficulties or impediments might dampen motivation.
- You put in too much time researching; while it’s good to have some idea of what to expect, you can’t possibly anticipate every possible scenario. If you adopt that frame of mind, you will waste precious time reading about your topic of interest rather than actually working on it.
- Deep down, you’re too comfortable where you are – While looking back on past success is satisfying, it can also limit future ambition. It’s like the old adage goes: “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” If you’re content and everything are running smoothly, then why bother changing anything or exploring new avenues?
Methods for Realizing Your Ideal Lifestyle (Your Step-by-Step Guide)
Having money isn’t the only way to achieve your goals. The conviction that your daily actions serve a greater meaning in life.
The dreamer is the first step in the realisation of every great dream. Keep in mind that you already possess all the power, patience, and enthusiasm necessary to achieve your loftiest goals and make a positive impact on the world.
This is Harriet Tubman.
If you’re ready to stop letting your anxieties dictate how you live your life, then using the strategies outlined in Champion of Change, the 7 Instrumental Laws of Change is a good place to begin. However, there are more factors to think about.
#1 Be Aware of Your Goals
Far too many of us spend our time griping about our circumstances rather than contemplating what it is we truly want.
To begin, accept that you may not yet know exactly what it is that you want. Some people are born with certain life plans, while others develop theirs through time. Discovering your true desires takes effort, but it’s worth it in the end.
Think about the following inquiries:
- In what ways do you find joy?
- Tell me about yourself; what do you like to do?
- In what ways do you define success?
- When you think about your future, what do you hope to accomplish?
- Who or what do you value most?
- Tell me about the things you wish to alter in your life.
- Who do you look up to?
The answers to these questions will lead you closer to your objectives. Take notes and keep expanding on your ideas until you arrive at the desired outcome. Finding your dream is the first step toward actualizing it.
Check out this piece if you need help prioritising your wants and needs.
#2 Establish a strategy.
Take some time to imagine the life you want and it will teach you how to get it.
In comparison to a standard vision board, this one is really special. Using all of your senses is essential for this type of mental imagery.
Olympians will often practise by imagining themselves in the midst of a competition. U.S. freestyle skier Emily Cook is described as saying her visualisation techniques make use of all five senses. She makes motions that resemble skiing downhill, imagines the wind in her hair and the cheers of the audience as she reaches the finish line.
Olympians can best prepare for competition on the spot by constantly challenging themselves mentally. In fact, research shows that simply imagining an exercise session can lead to real muscular gains. Visualization is a powerful source of inspiration, and this isn’t just true for athletes.
#3 Prioritize Opportunities Over Constraints
Potentially, life can do anything. The instant you start to doubt your own skills and those of others, you start to limit them. Many people fail to realise their full potential because they constantly underestimate their own abilities and hence fail to achieve their goals in life.
There is truth in the idea that we have limitations, such as our health, energy levels, and focus, but the good news is that we can improve upon these through training.
You’ll have more success in achieving your goals and living the life of your dreams if you view your constraints as more akin to glass than to some other, more solid material.
#4 Pay Closer Attention
Your perspective on life and the world at large will need to shift if you are serious about making your ambitions a reality. Your worldview is maintained by the mental filters through which information is processed, and your worldview is the product of your beliefs.
Every day, you receive millions of sensory inputs and your mind filters out most of them to keep you from going mad. The ones you take in reflect the ones your mind has determined to be significant to you based on your history of exposure to them.
Buying an automobile is a commonplace instance of this phenomenon. Soon after you take ownership of the vehicle, you’ll start spotting it just about wherever you go. Obviously, everyone didn’t buy the car on the same day that you did, so what gave?
When you made the decision to buy a new car, you communicated to your brain that “this car important to me.” So now you’re seeing the car in your head that’s been there the whole time.
Just as buying a car can cause your mind to reorient itself, so can taking the steps toward realising your ideal life. In the process of doing, you’ll become aware of possibilities that were previously hidden from view (just outside of your previous filters).
#5 Be Consistent in Your Approach
The secret to getting what you desire and living the good life is consistency.
Maintaining uniformity, however, is challenging. It’s normal to get frustrated and want to give up every once in a while; you’re human.
On those days, it’s important to take a break and relax. When you feel better, get back to work since each step you take brings you that much closer to your objective.
If you find yourself becoming discouraged, remind yourself of your ultimate objective.
#6 Track Your Progress
Regularly reviewing your stats is a must for staying on target. Journals, calendars, and applications can all be used to track and analyse your progress.
When you feel like you fell short, write down what went wrong so you can figure out how to improve next time. Instead of fixating on attaining perfection, aim for steady improvement.
Keep in mind how crucial it is to honour your accomplishments and acknowledge your own contributions to those victories.
#7 Ignore Comparisons
Ultimately, the only person you should be competing with is yourself. Many methods agree with that statement, but they also acknowledge that there are situations where it is appropriate to visualise an admired somebody and attempt to model one’s behaviour after theirs.
It’s not a good idea, and I’m telling you right now.
Focusing on one’s own identity is a more intelligent and beneficial alternative. Don’t fret or compare yourself to someone who is older or wealthier. There were other factors involved that are of little relevance to you.
Don’t worry about anything but telling your narrative.
#8 Implement Necessary Procedures and Structures
If you’ve finally found the right frame of mind to begin actualizing your ideal life, you can turn your attention to actually making it happen.
Most people make the common error of starting strong but ultimately failing because they rely too heavily on their own discipline and resolve. Your willpower and discipline are exhaustible resources that will decrease with time. For this reason, by the 30th day after starting a New Year’s Resolution, most people have already given up on it. That’s why dieters succeed with healthy choices throughout the day but fall short when nighttime rolls around.
That’s why it’s crucial to establish procedures and routines that reduce reliance on personal discipline and determination. Since our dieter no longer has any interest in eating candy, they should get rid of it.
This is true for your ideal life as well. If you want to ensure that you follow through on your goal, you have to be willing to limit the opportunity for you to revert back to your prior life.
#9 Adapt to the Game; Don’t Be Adapted By It
It was best put by Macklemore:
[I can only choose my response to whatever life throws at me].
Alternately, you might just switch around the rules of the game without letting it alter your character. In order to advance in life, many people are ready to forego who they truly are and adopt an alias.
This can take the form of anything from starting a new job to striking an important commercial or personal relationship. In the end, you shouldn’t be satisfied with that.
Be confident in your identity and unwavering in your morals. Maintain a flexible mindset and diligently put in the effort necessary to bring about desired improvements.
#10 Taking Responsibility Is Necessary
When you are accountable to someone or a group, you will find yourself more inspired to continue. Everyone, at their core, wishes to be loved and accepted. The situation is not one in which this would be a disadvantage, though it is true that it sometimes would be.
When you proclaim your intention to specific people, it raises the likelihood of you following through. However, there is evidence to suggest that telling the world about your intention to change will reduce the likelihood that you will actually do so.
To your surprise, accountability is something you encounter frequently.
- For obvious reasons, if the CEO needs a report from you, you’ll do your absolute best to make a good impression.
- If you’re invited to a class reunion, you will feel more compelled to get in shape.
- People tend to tidy their homes more thoroughly before having guests over.
Accountability is effective because people want to maintain their reputations and honour their commitments.
#11 Create a Change Catalyst
There are things you can and cannot control in life. Fear of uncertainty or failure should not prevent you from pursuing your goals. Unfortunately, you can’t expect a trouble-free trip. Problems and setbacks are inevitable.
The silver lining is that mistakes are necessary for growth and achievement. They go hand in hand like two sides of a coin. Most people spend so much energy attempting to prevent failure that they wind up sabotaging their own chances of success without even realising it.
Realizing that setbacks are inevitable means that you shouldn’t try to escape them, but rather learn from and improve upon them.
No one good thing has to happen to kick off your ideal life. Negative experiences (or the perception of them) and a need for survival might motivate people to push themselves to new limits.
Your shift in circumstances could be the best thing that could have occurred to you, or it could be the worst. Regardless, you’re thinking ahead to the next step. Successes should be piled upon that initial success.
Rather than letting setbacks discourage you, resolve to use each one as motivation to go closer to realising your ideal life.
#12 Accept the Possibility of Disappointment
Life is seldom what it seems. You can make as many plans as you like, but be aware that life rarely goes according to plan. Be ready for the inevitable setbacks and difficulties you’re sure to encounter along the route.
It is preferable to attempt and fail than to never try at all, therefore don’t be afraid of failure. The trick is to not let setbacks affect you emotionally. Turn setbacks into educational experiences.
The ability to fail successfully breeds a fearlessness that propels one to leave safety behind, try new things, and ultimately succeed.
#13 Put Yourself in the Company of Upbeat, Optimistic People.
The people around you might affect you psychologically and emotionally. The key to maturation is surrounding yourself with like-minded people. Toxic relationships can have a variety of negative outcomes, including a drop in self-esteem and chronic anxiety.
What you require are positive, upbeat, and encouraging companions who can point the way forward, keep your spirits high, and encourage you to think optimistically.
#14 No Texting While Driving
Simply put, pay attention to what’s going on around you. All of us are addicted to our mobile devices. In fact, you’re probably reading this on your phone right now!
It’s natural to want to use your phone for many purposes, but like with Tip #5, this might give the device too much power over your life. Instead, it’s crucial to have more control over the things you can control in order to create dream life and have a living dream life.
Like a cell phone.
Reducing your time spent on it is a favour to yourself. No one has any business prying into your every waking moment. The sooner you put down the gadgets and start participating in regular life, the better off you’ll be.
#15 Character Is Crucial, So Keep That in Mind.
Researchers from two universities on different sides of the economic spectrum collaborated on a list of positive psychology specialists’ top recommendations for students to develop in order to succeed.
Tenacity, self-control, verve, social savvy, thankfulness, optimism, and curiosity were among the traits they identified.
Most people’s conceptions of what makes a successful person share some of the aforementioned attributes, such as perseverance, curiosity, and self-control. Yet, despite being included, the importance of thankfulness, zeal, optimism, and social intelligence (sensitivity) to achievement is frequently disregarded.
It’s crucial to remember that transformation happens from the inside-out. Your essential values are the prism through which you accomplish your goals.
#16 Remove Excess Materials
Numerous studies have shown that material wealth does not guarantee contentment. Yes, it can lead to experiences that bring us joy, but when buying tangible items, those are short-lived bursts.
Being able to live one’s life to the fullest by engaging in a variety of activities is the true source of joy and fulfilment. Put another way, life is about making things happen.
Of course, you’ll have to shell out some cash for some of these activities, but the important point is that you’re investing in things that will truly stand out in your memory. Investing in experiences rather than material goods—like vacations, exercise equipment, video games, yoga mats, or surfboards—can make life more fulfilling.
Rather of obtaining a new automobile every couple of years or a bigger house, you should put more money toward those kinds of experiences.
#17 Focus on What You Can Control
If your mind is racing and causing you tension, try pausing for a moment to breathe deeply and letting go of any extraneous ideas.
Negative emotions and stress might result from dwelling on thoughts that aren’t helpful. At such moments, just focus on the things that are within your control and forget about the rest.
Realize that there are some things you simply cannot change, and stop wasting time worrying about them.
Read this post if you need help letting go of things you can’t change.
#18 Gather Your Strength
Do not allow yourself to procrastinate on your transformation. Putting off making a change until you have more knowledge or better timing can be a masquerade for a fear of change.
It’s important to remember that you’re not on the lookout for a dream job or a perfect relationship. You’ll be in a much better position to make adjustments once you’ve gotten started.
In the beginning, it can feel like you’re going through a fog. If you stand on the outside of the fog trying to see to the other side, you are going to find it very tough. But if you’re prepared to take those initial steps, you’ll notice that there’s light beyond the fog.
Keep on walking, and soon enough the fog will be behind you, allowing you to see plainly.
You know what your ideal life would be like and about how much work it will take to get it. However, you do not truly know how reasonable your expectations are until you experience it.
Living the life you’ve always imagined takes a lot of hard effort, but the rewards are worth it. Let go of your concerns about things outside of your control; life is brief.
More than anything else, people tend to lament the opportunities they missed out on. Thus, don’t accept anything less than your ideal existence. Make a concerted and determined attempt to achieve your goal.