Our lives necessitate an element of unlearning. I’ve seen that there are fundamental human actions that cause us to remain mired in the past, dissatisfied, and unable to go forward.
That which we cling to and refuse to let go of is the bane of our progress toward our goals, our serenity, and our happiness.
In my role as a life coach, I ask about the kinds of things that would make my clients happy, such as how they would like to be made to feel, what they would like to accomplish, and what they would like to gain from our sessions together.
This video is going to be a little bit different than usual because I’m going to talk about the things we need to completely quit doing. It’s essential that you give up these habits if you ever hope to enjoy life to its fullest.
Simply put, we need to engage in a process of unlearning. From what I’ve seen, there are certain habits that serve to keep us mired in the past and the misery it brings. We sabotage our own happiness, contentment, and sense of serenity when we stubbornly cling to these destructive habits.
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1: Maintain ill Will
True independence may only be attained through the practise of forgiveness. To quote Marianne Williamson: “Forgiveness is actually out of self-interest.” The goal of feeling hatred, wrath, or resentment toward another person is to damage them, yet the actual result is the opposite.
We keep the bitterness and animosity inside of ourselves. Try asking yourself, “How can I change my perspective on this?” Continue to ponder this query and delve deeper until your resentment begins to take on a new form.
2: That’s it; We Just Give Up.
I think the saddest thing we can do is to abandon our hopes and goals. All too often, we ignore our talents, choose the “safe” route, or deny ourselves the chance to go after our hearts’ deepest desires.
Large amounts of remorse are felt in retrospect, and the present is dulled as a result. Someone once said that hell is when you finally have to face the person you may have been all along. Really, all I can say is wow.
Intuition knows when we are not being authentic, and it keeps nagging at us until we listen (although we try to tune it out). I’m confident that you recognise the voice I’m referring to.
3: Allow External Factors to Dictate how We Spend Our Time Today
When we live our lives “from the inbox out,” as I like to put it, we miss out on the joy that comes with taking charge of our own destinies.
From the alarm clock in the morning to the last Instagram “like” before bed, our days are scheduled for us by social media and email. What would your life be like if the things that bother you every day simply disappeared?
4: Accept Only Surface-Level Friendships
I’ve taken notice of this since settling in New York. When forming new friendships, I noticed that people rarely discuss deep topics or reveal their vulnerabilities.
We all subconsciously want to build a true connection with other people, therefore whether I bring up my early divorce or modest origins, others tend to open up with me too. In conversation, I often hear, “It’s wonderful to talk about this stuff.”
Soulful connections are born out of more in-depth conversations, but we tend to focus on superficial topics like our recent travels and professional achievements when trying to strike up conversations with new people.
Telling a genuine anecdote about oneself tends to bring individuals out of their shells, paving the way for a more genuine and fantastic dialogue and connection to develop. You can pursue deeper connections if you’d like.
5: Lastly, let’s compare!
Analogy is misleading since it is subjective, inflated, and fictitious. What is happening in the lives of other people is completely unknown to us.
While we may be envious of their success, we may have no idea that their child is being bullied or that their marriage is on the verge of collapse. Our focus should be on resenting our own good fortune (gratitude, my friends).
6: Don’t be So Generous
In the end, it has nothing to do with us. Helping other people gives you the deepest, most long-lasting joy possible. A lawyer I know gives free guitar lessons to underprivileged kids every Sunday.
One of the things that makes him happiest in the world, according to him. This idea that selfless acts bring to the greatest happiness is the world’s greatest beauty, in my opinion. It can’t be topped by anything else out there.
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How can you begin to detach from your devices more often, imagine bigger dreams, and give more of yourself as the new season approaches? Don’t lose sight of the bright star that is forgiveness. Without it, we can’t be our brightest.
In the Big Apple, you can find Susie Moore, who works as a confidence coach. Click over to www.susie-moore.com to join her mailing list and receive weekly wellness suggestions at no cost to you.
